Human beings have a tendency to repeat patterns of behaviour, and even when they would like to change they often find themselves unable to do so. Counselling is widely recognized as an effective way of dealing with personal problems that stem from unhealthy behaviour patterns; understanding them, addressing them and moving on.
The counselling relationship is different from other social relationships. It is limited to the counselling session and the confidential counselling space, so it can provide a safe environment in which to investigate past and present feelings and relationships. Exploring your concerns can often help you understand your strengths and build on them to support the changes you want to make.
At first it can be difficult to think or talk about feelings – you may feel embarrassed or ashamed – but with the guidance of a counsellor it becomes easier. Rather than give advice, the aim of counselling is to help you think about choices and options that you may not have considered before. By understanding more about yourself, and by developing a greater self-awareness, the aim is to find different ways of thinking about and dealing with painful situations or feelings.
In a typical counselling or psychotherapeutic setting, a therapist meets with a client in private and will explore any difficulties/distress the client may be experiencing in confidence. Sessions last 60 minutes each and are usually scheduled weekly but can be on a more ad hoc basis to be arranged between you and your counsellor. Counselling is more likely to succeed once clients are open to believing that they can change their feelings and that their happiness is not dependent upon something or somebody else.
Counselling and Therapy can help in some of the following ways:
The potential benefits of counselling are many. Through being listened to and through us working together for your benefit, you can gradually find resources and solutions. In my experience as a counsellor working with couples, groups and individuals, the following areas are likely to improve: